Challenging Others Without Harassing Them — It’s a Learned Skill

After reading a few of my blog posts, you might fall under the impression that I just love controversy and look for it at every turn. What would it be like to meet me in real life? Would I constantly be badgering you to change your mind about birth control, modesty, headcovering, etc.? Would I be so irritating you might be tempted to flee for your life? Here’s a look at the real me, and what I’ve learned about how to get along with people . . . without bashing them over the head with the Bible. Continue reading

Modest Swimwear at the Beach

The Bible says women are to be modest (1 Timothy 2:9). Does that exclude the beach? Is it okay to wear a typical one-piece or even a two-piece swimsuit if the context involves water? Let me phrase the question another way: When is it ever okay to let men other than our husbands have a peek at our breasts and bottoms? Continue reading

Attractive and Beautiful

beautiful-dahlias

As women, we naturally want to be beautiful. We want clear complexions and shiny hair; trim figures and feminine curves. None of that is bad. It’s not bad to want to look nice. But what happens when our desire to look nice turns into a hunger to attract? We want to be beautiful, but what is beauty? Is it found in our power to attract a man and hold him captive through lust? At what point might our thirst for outer beauty interfere with our ability to cultivate inner beauty? Continue reading

Avoiding an “Us vs. Them” Mentality

thomas kinkade garden gate

We all want to belong, to feel accepted, to fit in, to be part of the group; that’s natural. I even think that to a certain degree, that desire reflects a need that is not only natural, but essential: we are social beings created for community. Even if everyone else deserts us, we will still rely heavily upon fellowship with the Holy Spirit to sustain us. God made us this way because that’s the way He is: He has always existed as a communion of three members in the Trinity; He was never alone, and He never intended for us, who are made in His image, to be alone either.

The trouble starts when we develop an attitude of pride and arrogance in our belonging to a certain group, or in holding to a certain ideology. Continue reading

Lazy Children?

Proverbs 22:6

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

I once heard a popular Bible teacher say that to “train up a child” means to “guide a child according to his natural bent.” Though I’m no one to argue with a theologian, it does seem a bit of a stretch to me. Why can’t we just take the Bible at its word? Continue reading