It’s so easy to lie to ourselves. When we are in a tough situation, our feelings deceive us into accepting the “easiest” solution. We become prone to listen to bad advice, evil counsel. And that, coming sometimes even from our fellow Christians. This self-deception can happen in many–any–area of our lives, but today let’s look at divorce.
God hates divorce; the Bible says so (Malachi 2:16). So, we either try to convince ourselves that He really only hates it some of the time, and our case doesn’t apply (which is absurd), or that He does indeed hate it all the time, and our case is a sad but necessary evil, due not to our own selfishness, but entirely to the hard-heartedness of our spouse. Either way, we are twisting the Word of God for our own benefit.
I have heard Christians saying, “Well, sometimes separation is necessary; sometimes the other person is just so far gone past reason that the only solution is divorce.” Really? I think that’s a rather convenient solution. I don’t want to minimize the pain, or even sometimes, the danger, of one’s situation. I’m simply saying, we aren’t being faithful to God’s word. So, let’s stop being hypocritical, saying we love God, while in essence, we hate our own “flesh.” That’s just insane.
You know, I’ve experienced what it is to rebel against God’s word, all the while trying to convince myself that I had reason to do so. When I finally woke up, I looked around at the resulting damage, and I mourned. I literally wept bitter, bitter tears of regret. I loathed myself. I wondered why God even allowed me to exist, why He didn’t cut my life off with the snap of His holy finger. By now, I know why. It’s called “mercy.” Because of God’s mercy, I woke up from a dream, from denying reality. By God’s mercy, I began to heal from my self-inflicted wounds. By God’s mercy, I was able to recognize sin for what it was, and can now stare my reflection in the face with complete honesty; God granted me not only the clarity to see my sin, but to see His forgiveness wash it away.
So, if you have made some bad choices in your past, yes, there are consequences. But, God’s healing is available to all who are willing to recognize their own wickedness, and repent of it. Even for those who have been mislead into ripping apart what God Himself joined together. However, this healing cannot commence until we first accept the truth about ourselves. We must admit that God does indeed hate divorce (or fill in the blank of whatever sin you have committed), and stop mangling the truth so that it suits our own selfish purposes.