Which is more important, church or family? If faced with the need to choose, which would it be for you? I’ve come up with a list to demonstrate how I determine who takes precedence whenever there is a contest between two priorities.
This is how my priorities rank, and is what I believe to be best:
- God. We need to have a time of prayer and Bible reading each day, however random, to sustain us. Our relationship with God comes first.
- Husband. We need to truly be a helper to our husband. Our commitment is first to him and his needs, before anybody else.
- Children. Our own offspring, the fruit of our one-flesh marriage relationship, are our next level of priority. Our children are our “arrows,” our “olive shoots,” our most precious life’s work. They are too great a treasure and too great a responsibility for us to allow them to be too much in the care of others. They need us to be there for them. Other people’s kids don’t need us as much as our own kids do.
- Family. Our own flesh-and-blood family, especially our own father and mother, are our next priority. I think the ones who gave us life deserve our loyalty and attention more than the church does. And our flesh-and-blood siblings would come in a close second. (For some people, this would be their adoptive father and mother if they weren’t raised by their biological parents.)
- Church family. Now this is where our brothers and sisters in Christ fall into the list. Right after our biological family.
- Close friends.
- Neighbors and other acquaintances.
What do you think? Is my list similar to yours? What would you change; what would you keep the same? Why?