The Blessing of Children

What Does God Say about Having Children?

February 14 in 2015 092

Does the Bible talk about birth control? Absolutely! Later on, in another post, we’ll look at Genesis chapter 38, where birth control is specifically condemned. Do you think that God would leave us in the dark regarding such an important part of our lives? I’m so thankful that He hasn’t! For now, let’s take a brief look at some verses that tell us God’s viewpoint on having children. Because, if you’re a Christian, it’s God’s viewpoint that matters most, right?

Psalm 107

23 They that go down to the sea in ships, that do business in great waters;

24 These see the works of the Lord, and his wonders in the deep.

25 For he commandeth, and raiseth the stormy wind, which lifteth up the waves thereof.

26 They mount up to the heaven, they go down again to the depths: their soul is melted because of trouble.

27 They reel to and fro, and stagger like a drunken man, and are at their wit’s end.

28 Then they cry unto the Lord in their trouble, and he bringeth them out of their distresses.

29 He maketh the storm a calm, so that the waves thereof are still.

30 Then are they glad because they be quiet; so he bringeth them unto their desired haven.

31 Oh that men would praise the Lord for his goodness, and for his wonderful works to the children of men!

32 Let them exalt him also in the congregation of the people, and praise him in the assembly of the elders.

33 He turneth rivers into a wilderness, and the watersprings into dry ground;

34 A fruitful land into barrenness, for the wickedness of them that dwell therein.

35 He turneth the wilderness into a standing water, and dry ground into watersprings.

36 And there he maketh the hungry to dwell, that they may prepare a city for habitation;

37 And sow the fields, and plant vineyards, which may yield fruits of increase.

38 He blesseth them also, so that they are multiplied greatly; and suffereth not their cattle to decrease.

39 Again, they are minished and brought low through oppression, affliction, and sorrow.

40 He poureth contempt upon princes, and causeth them to wander in the wilderness, where there is no way.

41 Yet setteth he the poor on high from affliction, and maketh him families like a flock.

42 The righteous shall see it, and rejoice: and all iniquity shall stop her mouth.

43 Whoso is wise, and will observe these things, even they shall understand the lovingkindness of the Lord.

Wow! If you didn’t read the whole thing, go ahead, go back and read it all. Make sure that you read it slowly enough to understand the gist of it, then continue reading this post.


God is in control of: the weather and the sea.

God is in control of: the climate and agriculture.

God punishes a people’s wickedness by: causing their land to become dry and barren.

God helps the needy by: providing food and water for them, making their livestock to thrive, and…


“Oh that men would praise the Lord for his goodness, and for his wonderful works to the children of men! (v. 31)” Yes! How many of us consider “families like a flock” a sign of God’s goodness? How many of us are “wise, and will observe these things…[and] understand the lovingkindness of the Lord?” Wait–being “multiplied greatly” is a sign of God’s lovingkindness?! It’s not having a large family that we should be trying to avoid, but rather complaining about God’s wanting to shower us with His goodness by giving us a large family!

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Genesis 17

15 And God said unto Abraham, As for Sarai thy wife, thou shalt not call her name Sarai, but Sarah shall her name be.

16 And I will bless her, and give thee a son also of her: yea, I will bless her, and she shall be a mother of nations; kings of people shall be of her.

Awesome! God was going to bless Sarah by making her a mother! Is it a blessing to be a mother of one child? How about two? Three? Four? What about ten? Do children cease to be a blessing once you have ten of them? What if God wants to bless us with children–many children–but we refuse His gift because of our fear that we “won’t be able to handle it?”

I once gave someone a gift that I had spent some time picking out, just for her. I hoped she would be happy to get it. Then, after I handed it to her, she gave it back to me; she didn’t want it. I guess she didn’t think my gift went with her decor, or she already had too many of a similar item, or it would take up too much space. How upset I felt inside! I wanted to cry! And yet, I didn’t. I restrained myself in order to be polite.

Now, God wants to give us the gift of children. Will we be like that person who didn’t want my present–will we say, “No thanks, this isn’t what I want, You keep it”? Will we say that we “have too many of a similar item,” or that “it would take up too much space”? Yea, it’s kind of funny to think of us refusing children like that person refused my little gift; but, this issue is really much graver than that.

The Bible says,

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you;

Before you were born I sanctified you;

I ordained you a prophet to the nations.” 

Jeremiah 1:5

So, “two cells (one from the mother and one from the father) joined together and started to multiply; then, the ‘blob of tissue (the blastocyst)’ was formed”–is that what it says? No. It says, in words from the mouth of God Himself, “I formed you in the womb”! Each baby (embryo/fetus, or however you choose to label him/her) is a person (no matter what he/she may look like initially) and is formed by God! And He knows each one before conception!

For each child yet un-conceived, God has a plan. Children are gifts, but they are not like the little thing I tried to give away in my story. That thing was really not that big of a deal. Mostly, it was my feelings that were hurt; but, no serious consequences followed as a result of that person’s refusal of my gift. But children, on the other hand, are not little trinkets to be given and received (or refused) with the same sort of light-hearted attitude!

For each child we refuse, we blot out a soul from history. Perhaps a soul that God had intended would make a mark on the world, but because of His politeness in the face of our free-will, never will exist.

We believe that each of us has a destiny, a purpose. What about those still not conceived? Do they not have a purpose also–a purpose already conceived in the very heart of God? Will we open up our hands (and wombs) and receive His gift, and allow His purpose to be birthed? Allow that destiny to take it’s course?

What does God say about having children? We’ve only had time to look at a few verses, for now. But I hope that they have made an impact on our thinking! God clearly sees children as a sign of His blessing, and He tells us that they come from Him, and that they each have a destiny planned before they were even conceived! So, where does birth control come in? It doesn’t. At least, it shouldn’t.






2 thoughts on “What Does God Say about Having Children?

  1. Loved this post, agree completely.

    “For each child we refuse, we blot out a soul from history.”

    And not only from history, but eternity. God is saying that he wants another soul in eternity, and we are saying no – we really can’t be bothered or inconvenienced. Can we fathom the depths of what we are declaring? That we can’t be inconvenienced by the nurture of a little soul whom God wishes to create for eternity? Yowza.

    Additionally, it’s not just one soul. It’s that soul and all of his/her future lineage. When we practice birth control or abortion, we’re not just eliminating a child – we’re eliminating our child, and their children, and their children, and their children. We’re saying goodbye to our grandchildren and great-grandchildren as well. That’s powerful.

    You mentioned the analogy of the gift to your friend which was refused. I’ve always thought of that analogy with the birth control issue, especially those who say, “We’re going to practice birth control, but if God really wants us to have a baby, he’ll make it happen anyway.” That’s like pointing a shotgun out the window and trying to shoot the person walking up the drive to give you a gift. If you love and trust the person, why not put the shotgun away, open the door, and say THANK YOU for the beautiful gift (i.e. children)!!

    Wonderful points, as always!

    Have a lovely night!!


    1. Great points, Diana!
      I wish I would have thought of the eternal side of the issue while I was writing my post; it would have made it even stronger! I totally agree with your assessment–every life that we reject isn’t just a soul blotted out from history, but from eternity. And not only is that person missing, but the children, grandchildren, etc. that would have come from her/him, had we not used birth control. Sadly true…


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