Adjusting to life with a newborn…again!

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Our newest addition!

I’m so happy to be writing another article for this blog–finally! Itching to sit down and type something “profound” about my life that I can share with others (ha, ha), I’ve had to patiently wait until a rare quiet and free moment presented itself. A new baby in the house has really changed things, for the sixth time!

Amazingly, even though I’ve been through having to care for a newborn five times before, I still find myself stressing out about things:

  • Not getting much sleep at night (tired and grumpy)
  • Not getting to take a shower when I feel like it (yuck)
  • Not being able to get the chores done right away (messy house)
  • Not being able to leave the house and go places (trapped indoors)
  • Etc.

My weaker self is tempted to say, “This is a nuisance; why do I have to put up with this again?” But my wiser self admits, “This is the perfect opportunity for growth…” I wouldn’t grow, if I wasn’t made to. I don’t think any of us would! Who likes having to do hard stuff? Who chooses stress and self-denial? Do we wake up in the morning and say, “Today I’m going to do ten sets of can’t have my way,  followed by five sets of annoying setbacks to my plans?” We see the point of exercising our physical muscles, and accept that there will be healthy pain involved, but it is harder for us to see the point of having to experience the healthy pain involved in developing our spiritual muscles. So, because we wouldn’t choose this type of growth for ourselves, God chooses it for us.

God is stretching me, and developing my character, definitely. He is also revealing to me more about Himself. Sometimes I hear this baby crying, and I think, “Why are you crying; I’ve fed you, I’ve changed your diaper, I’ve made sure you’re not too hot or cold–I’m even holding you!–so, what is it that’s so bad you have to cry and cry about it?” But wait, isn’t that how we are? We cry, and complain, and wail about every little thing that we don’t like, and God, gracious and patient God that He is, puts up with it all with the tender compassion a mother shows her newborn baby.

At the end of the day, even after all our whining, God loves us with a love that never ends, that sees us with the eyes of an adoring father looking down at his sweet little baby as he holds her in his arms: “Forget the crying, forget the screaming, forget the throw up and messy diapers–this is My little baby,” He says, “and I love her SO MUCH!” God doesn’t treat us as a nuisance; He doesn’t say, “When is this all finally going to end so I can get back to My life?” No way! He knows that we are weak and can’t care for ourselves if left on our own, and He delights to meet our every need, and to soothe our distress with His comfort. Instead of focusing on all the “bad” stuff, He chooses to take pleasure in all the good stuff: that we are His creation, that He made us each unique and with a special purpose, that we (if believers in Christ) will live forever together with Him… Tempted to think sometimes that God must be irritated with all my weaknesses, I am being reminded, through the experience of having my own little baby to care for, that God, instead of being irritated with me, is gushing with joy that I’m His little girl! He would do anything for me (even die for me…).

 

 

 

 

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14 thoughts on “Adjusting to life with a newborn…again!

  1. It’s always a growing experience, I think, no matter how many times we do it – I know that should the Lord bless us with another child, I’ll be just as clueless as I always am. (Okay, not as clueless as I was with my first, but it always feels confusing and disorienting to a certain extent.) And yes, it’s character development to the extreme – each time!! I think that’s why God’s gift of fertility is rejected by the world – because it makes us uncomfortable, because it makes us grow and stretch and deny ourselves. Why experience the discomfort of growth when we can cut off the blessing and just be comfortable? Sad.

    Praying for you as you adjust to a new little one!!
    Diana

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    • Thanks for your prayers! I agree with your comment. People say, “I know my limits and I’m just doing what’s best for myself (so I don’t go crazy) and my family (they need me sane),” etc. Excuses and self-justification. Really, they’re saying, “I don’t want to have to deal with stress,” and trying to make self-centeredness sound reasonable, while ignoring the fact that Jesus came not to be served but to serve, and to give His life as a ransom for many, and we are supposed to follow His example of sacrifice and self denial for the sake of obedience to God’s will.
      I always love to get your comments!
      Jessica

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  2. <God is stretching me, and developing my character, definitely. He is also revealing to me more about Himself. Sometimes I hear this baby crying, and I think, “Why are you crying; I’ve fed you, I’ve changed your diaper, I’ve made sure you’re not too hot or cold–I’m even holding you!–so, what is it that’s so bad you have to cry and cry about it?” But wait, isn’t that how we are? We cry, and complain, and wail about every little thing that we don’t like, and God, gracious and patient God that He is, puts up with it all with the tender compassion a mother shows her newborn baby.

    Dearest Jessica,
    I was so touched by your devotional message, especially the above paragraph which desribes our Father's heart toward us wonderfully.

    I can imagine that now is one of the most difficult times for you as a mother, and I, together with our dear sisters, am so grateful that you care to write and share your heart with us.

    with love,
    Kinuko

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  3. Beautiful photo and post. Someday your children may read your posts, and know how you walk with God in your motherhood. I’m so happy to read this post feeling God’s help with you and your family.
    Please take care and keep on,thank you for sharing!

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  4. Dear Jessica,
    As usual, your posts on family take me back to my baby years 🙂 You’re right. There was a measure of adjustment with each of the new births. Some would say, ‘What’s the big deal? It’s just one more.’ The fact is, for all the reasons you stated, that there is one more little person adding to the fam responsibilities. Doesn’t mean that you’re not thankful or ecstatic about her being there, though.
    I love how you made the application between you and God. How often I go astray and need a ton of bricks to land on my head (not literally :-)), but the father still loves me. Loved this! – Ruthie

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