These are our children, and yes, I DO know what caused them to be conceived!
Sometimes, when I tell people how many children we have (5), and they realize we are expecting another (#6), those words pop out of their mouth: “Do you know what causes that?” Now, doesn’t that seem a little rude? I never know how to respond, but the last time my husband was asked that question, he came back with, “Yes, I do, and I like it!” Well, I would never be brave enough to answer in that way! But he, apparently, has no sense of shame–ha, ha.
Seriously, that question implies that if we were using our intelligence, we would NEVER be dumb enough to allow ourselves to conceive even more children (beyond the standard 1 to 3)–because that would just be irresponsible, right? So, we must not know the basics of life. Isn’t that condescending?
We are VERY aware of how children are conceived. It is a beautiful biological process which begins with sex, but which is overseen by the sovereignty of God. We sometimes THINK we’re in control of this process, but we must acknowledge that in the end, a newly conceived human being exists only because God ALLOWS it to exist. This new human being has the “breath of life” breathed into it by the Spirit of God Himself, and then “[becomes] a living being.” God is in control of life. We, no matter how smart we think we are, are not.
Even in cases of rape, the child who is conceived is there because God ALLOWED it to begin growing, and He has a plan for that child’s life. No matter how ANYONE is conceived–whether through rape, incest, drunkenness, in a test tube, or in the context of marriage but by “accident”– God has a plan and a purpose for that person’s life, sketched out ahead of time in God’s book (Psalm 139:13-16). NOBODY is an accident!
And, neither are our children.
We have done THE MOST RESPONSIBLE thing anyone can do: we have placed our trust in the CREATOR OF THE WHOLE UNIVERSE (!!!) to be the One Who decides our family size. We don’t try to get in His way, because, yes, He does give us free will, and He will sometimes allow us to go our own stubborn way, if we so insist. Yes, He is sovereign, but He also gives us the ability to choose for ourselves which path we will take. Better to let Him have the final choice, and simply to leave it in HIS hands, since we have no way of knowing the future for sure, and no way of knowing the true importance of One…Single…Human…Life.
So, really, the answer to “Do you know what causes that?” is that GOD cause that! If we keep having more children, it’s HIS FAULT–take it up with HIM!
(And by the way, I hope this post doesn’t sound angry. I’m actually in a very good mood right now, but want to get straight to the point.)