Modesty

Why I Wear Skirts and Dresses Only

Modesty of dress is one of the topics that is very important to me. Growing up, I didn’t hear this subject talked about much. Something I did hear from time to time went along these lines: “Jesus made me free–so I don’t need to wear skirts.” But why would people say that? What was it about wearing skirts that would make someone feel “not free”? I grew up wearing pants, like pretty much every other girl I knew. Yet, I always felt a curiosity to understand this issue. I wished other people would talk about it, because I really wanted to know what this was all about.

Maybe you have felt that way, too. Maybe you are wondering, “Why do some ladies only wear skirts and dresses?” Or, perhaps you are already familiar with some who do, but have not chosen this lifestyle for yourself. Reading the reasons why I have personally decided to do so may help give you increased understanding about this, and help you relate better to others who have chosen to live differently.  Wait, I forgot one more person–the woman who is reading this who has already been living the skirts and dresses only lifestyle for awhile, but is becoming discouraged. She feels like the only one in her world who does this, and she seriously needs some encouragement! I will try to write this keeping all of your different possible backgrounds in mind. This article will be very basic. There’s not enough room to address everything here, but if you want to know more, I can recommend some very good books, which I will list at the end.

Reason #1–To Make a Clear Distinction

 

“The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a
woman’s garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God.”

Deuteronomy 22:5

Even though the Hebrews all wore robes, male and female alike, for this verse to make any sense, there must have been some kind of distinction. Whatever that difference was, God wanted them to maintain it. There were to be no blurry lines. Females needed to dress like females. Males needed to dress like males.

For God to say that cross-dressing is abominable, it must be something He regards as very serious. I think the reason it may be such a serious issue is that cross-dressing demonstrates a rebellious attitude toward God-given roles. Homosexuality may also be in consideration here. In our culture, when did women first begin to wear pants? Why did they do it? What were they trying to say by it? You may not be a feminist, but every time you wear pants, you have the radical feminist movement to thank for it. Women rebelling against traditional roles made your pant-wearing possible. Is that something you want to be a part of?

Wearing a skirt or a dress is the clearest possible way to outwardly demonstrate a difference between the genders.

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Reason #2–To Show Submission to God-given Roles

 

“I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.”

1 Timothy 5:14

God’s will for married women is for them to be homemakers. There are certain circumstances that may warrant a woman working outside of the home, or working from the home; however, those are to be exceptions to the rule. Her main task is to manage the house. The man has the duty of providing for his family. The woman has the duty of bearing children, and caring for them from within the warmth and comfort of their home.

If you read Proverbs 31, you will see a very active woman who buys a field and plants a vineyard; who weaves fine linen, and sells it. You may be thinking, “Isn’t that the same as a woman who works outside of the home?” I believe she consulted with her husband in all of her important decisions. He may have even come with her when she bought that field, to inspect it and make sure that she was getting a good bargain. The field may have been right next to their own property. When she went out to plant the vineyard, her children may have come and helped her. I can see her conversing and laughing with her family as she wove her fine linen, seated in the main room of her house. She probably accompanied her husband to market, and laid out her wares next to his. Her children got a first-hand look at how to negotiate prices. “She looketh well to the ways of her household…” (Proverbs 31:27) It’s hard to look well to the ways of your household, if you’re away from your house, don’t you think?

“That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”

Titus 2:4-5

God wants the women to be keepers at home. How can you be a keeper at home if you’re not at home? Additionally, married women are to OBEY their husbands, not argue with them or boss them around.

Now, here’s my point: We women are not to compete with our husbands, but to complement and support them. Our way of dressing reflects our attitude. For example, a woman who desires to be respected in the business world, will dress in a business suit. Image is important because it communicates your beliefs about yourself, how you want other people to relate to you, and projects your values in a way that other people can understand, without ever having to say a word. A woman wearing a suit might be saying that her goal is to be successful in business, and wants to be respected by her colleagues just as they would respect a man in the same field of work. A woman who believes it is her career to take care of her home, might express her goals by wearing a dress or skirt to show submission to her husband, the one who “wears the pants” in the home. By doing so, she illustrates the difference in their roles, and says “I don’t want to compete with my husband. We are not the same; we are different, and I’m okay with that.”

Reason #3–To be Modest

 

“In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.”

1 Timothy 2:9-10  

What is modest apparel? Can you honestly say that it is modest for your breasts to show when you lean over? Can you be modest in pants that outline all the curves of your bottom, and emphasize your crotch area? Is a skirt modest if it only reaches down to just below your bottom? I think the answer to these questions is easier to answer than you think. All private areas, such as breasts, bottom, crotch, and upper thighs should be hidden. It’s that simple. A modest skirt or dress that is not too clingy or tight, and that falls below the knees does the job well. If you’re worried about your skirt flying up, or your toddler pulling on it, wear leggings underneath. Make sure your blouse covers your chest up to about your collar bone. Stay away from sleeveless tops, because they reveal the areas of flesh near your breasts.

One of the reasons why it is so important to be modest in dress, is that love demands it. Love isn’t self-centered, thinking only about what makes you happy. Love looks out for others, and what will be best for them. Jesus said that for a man to even look at a woman lustfully is the same to God as committing adultery (Matthew 5:27-28). So why should we care about what a man does with his eyes–isn’t that his problem?

“So then every one of us shall give account of himself to God. Let us not therefore judge one another any more: but judge this rather, that no man put a stumblingblock or an occasion to fall in his brother’s way…Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another.” (Romans 14:12-13, 19)

It is true that what a man does with his own eyes is his responsibility, but it is also true that how we women dress is our responsibility–if we dress seductively or flirtatiously (you know what I’m talking about), we are putting a stumbling block in our brother’s way. We are making it harder for him to obey God. Is that love?

Being modest also means being humble. A humble person isn’t one to show off or draw attention. Be careful with the overall way you present yourself. The verse cited above (right below Reason #3) mentions that women are not to have braided hair. What’s wrong with a simple braid? Maybe nothing. But when things start to get over-the-top intricate, then perhaps what started out as no big deal becomes just way too much. How much time do you spend on your hair? The time we dedicate to certain activities shows how important we believe those things to be. Is your hair really worth an hour of your day? Also, fancy hair-dos can be expensive. Women at the time the letter of 1 Timothy was written wore their hair in complex braids, and adorned them with jewels and fancy pins, probably to show their social status (and show off their good looks). The women of today perm, color and straighten their hair. Pretty much for the same reasons, don’t you think? I can’t pay for a $200 color job, but the first thing I assume about someone I see with really nice dyed hair, is that she must have quite a bit of extra money to spend on something like that.

Another consideration is your jewelry. We women have a tendency to show off with that, too. It doesn’t have to be real gold and pearls. It just has to be “blingy” and flashy. Maybe a simple locket would do better: pretty, but not flirtatious or ostentatious.

Makeup is a similar issue. Be happy with the face that God gave you! You’re beautiful the way you are. Maybe use a small amount of makeup, but be sure not to hide the gorgeous face you were born with! Long lashes and a ton of cosmetics contribute towards a “come get me” kind of vibe ( kind of like a prostitute). 

Last of all, a modest attitude requires that we not be prideful that we are doing what we believe to be the right thing, when others are not. I can dress in a modest skirt or dress, with a bust-concealing blouse, keeping jewelry to a minimum, and simplifying my hair and makeup–but, if I have a prideful heart, all the good things I am doing just get swallowed up in the ugliness of arrogance. Other people will be repelled by my condescension. True modesty springs forth from a humble heart.

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So, ladies, those are my three basic arguments for wearing skirts and dresses only–1) To make a clear distinction, 2) To show submission to God-given roles, and 3) To be modest. Can you do those things in pants? What if your pants were not too tight, and you kept your bottom and crotch area covered with a long shirt? That certainly is a consideration; however, I still think that skirts and dresses do a better job of making a clear distinction. Do you know any (straight) guys who would be willing to wear a dress? If a man wouldn’t wear a dress, why is it okay for us ladies to wear pants? Also, take into consideration how all this pant-wearing got started. It wasn’t by women who were trying to please God in their roles of homemaker and child-bearer. It looks to me like those “pioneering” women were rebelling against God. Are you in their group?

I didn’t always wear skirts and dresses only; I grew up wearing pants, and wore them into young adulthood. I asked a question at the beginning of this article: “What is it about wearing skirts that would make someone feel ‘not free’?” There may be several reasons for that. Perhaps some ladies grew up in churches that mandated skirts/dresses only attire for all its female members. In order for the women to feel accepted in the group, they had to obey the regulations. Perhaps the reasoning behind this was never explained, leaving some people feeling controlled. Or, there may be some women who have been unkindly judged by others who are more conservative in their dress. A judgmental attitude can cause hurt and leave scars. Some people condemn others, without ever trying to get to know the person being judged, or her circumstances. Those painful memories can last a long time. And then, there may be some who consider skirts and dresses as unpractical, unfashionable, or even ugly.

What do I think about these concerns? They are all valid, to a certain degree. Dig deep, and try to discover why it is that YOU do/don’t wear skirts and dresses. Are they good reasons? Do they fit with what God’s word says about how women should dress? Maybe you’ve already thought it through, and you’re still fine with wearing pants. However, it might be helpful to re-evaluate your reasons for doing so from time to time, to see if your motives and actions match up with God’s will. Personally, I love wearing skirts and dresses! I don’t feel un-free at all. To the contrary, I feel like God has helped me to live my life in the light of His word, and that makes me feel at PEACE. I love looking pretty and feminine, and my husband likes to see me looking this way, too. I actually have fun pairing a flowing skirt with a cute blouse. I am free–free to do what I believe is right!

Thanks for reading this. I hope I have been informative, and helpful. There is so much more that could be said! but I’m trying to keep this post very basic, a summary of the major points.

If you would like to read more about the topic of modesty of dress, I highly recommend the following  two books, and Power-point presentation:

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58 thoughts on “Why I Wear Skirts and Dresses Only

  1. Dear Jessica,
    After you wrote your last two posts on wearing dresses/skirts, I went back to all your posts under modesty and purity. They could have been written just for me. I am that woman who is becoming discouraged in wearing skirts for modesty sake. I had one lady come up to me and ask if I was wearing skirts all the time. In fact, from church meeting to church meeting, I keep hearing the messages brought forth by the men, thinking, ‘I want to share this nugget with my online friends or they would really enjoy this message on symbolism.’ You have all become so close to me in spirit 🙂
    I do wear skirts/dresses full time. My only exception is when I am doing heavy yard work like tree trimming. My full skirts get caught in the underbrush, and I had a bad reaction to poison ivy, so I have since switched to more protective garments.
    I want to share with you a couple of things that have happened to me since you wrote these posts. Most recently, (last Wednesday) I was on my way to prayer meeting and wanted to quickly change out of my top that I had been working in all day. So, I grabbed the first one I saw and thought that it was sufficiently modest. I continued to think so, until after meeting, I was talking to my young 10 year old boy cousin. I was leaning forward slightly in my chair, listening to what he was saying when his eyes suddenly darted down toward my chest. I sat back up realizing what had just happened. Let me tell you, I felt absolutely horrible! I was just about in tears on the way home as I shared with my daughter what had happened. (She knows how strongly I feel about modesty, and we regularly help each other in this area.) She had also noticed that when I bent over to pick something up, my cleavage was showing. I had to ask the Lord to forgive me for causing my young cousin to stumble. I think that I am really doing a good job at being modest and then something like that happens. It can be discouraging, but it also makes me want to be even more diligent in my dress. You are so right, Jessica. Our young boys, teens and men are being bombarded constantly with sexual innuendos in everything! You can’t drive down the road without billboards screaming it or in the magazines in grocery stores or in the advertisements on the internet.
    I do not wear makeup because I did not want my daughter thinking that she needed that to make her feel beautiful. I did at one point. I wouldn’t dream of going out without putting ‘my face’ on first. The Lord has changed my heart though. My husband gave your section on makeup wearing an ‘Amen’ tonight when I read this post to him. His thoughts parallel what you said. Why are you wearing it? Are you trying to attract attention? If you can see the makeup and not the person’s true beauty, you’ve got too much on. Don’t get me wrong, I just turned 48 yesterday, and the temptation is great to try to remain young looking through the use of cosmetics. But why would I be doing that? It’s for vanity, plain and simple, especially when my husband is happy with me the way I am.
    The other issue I have been struggling with lately is summer camp. My daughter is going for the first time, and because she has never been away from home for a week solid before, I volunteered to work as kitchen staff there. i am so torn as to what to do with my attire. I mean, I wear skirts full time. They are comfy:) I thought that maybe an option would be to wear loose fitting capri’s with long shirts to cover my backside. I still am not sure, but your recent posts have definitely come at the right time for me.
    With that I will close, even though I have more to share. Perhaps an email 🙂
    With love, your friend, Ruthie

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    1. Dear Ruthie,
      Thank you for your wonderful comment!
      Might I ask: Why couldn’t you wear skirts in the kitchen at camp? Do they have a special dress code that prohibits skirts? Do you feel that it would somehow be unsafe?
      Last year, when I went to visit my sister at the hospital after she gave birth, I saw something interesting: a nurse in a skirt! This was the first time I had ever seen anything like it. She had on a plain, straightish A-line skirt down to her calves. Her hair was long, and braided into a french braid. She looked nice, but at the same time, ready to work. I automatically assumed that she had dressed this way for religious reasons, since what other lady would wear a skirt to work, if she could wear pants?
      I think that we have an awesome opportunity to be a light to others around us through our apparel. Why condescend to a less modest and less feminine level of dress, when we can motivate others to higher standards by not giving up our convictions? Some might think we are trying to draw attention to ourselves, but once they get to know us, they’ll know that’s not true. Some, out of curiosity, might ask why we only wear skirts. I think that would be a wonderful chance to tell them, with a short explanation, the reason why. Maybe they had simply never considered it before.
      So, perhaps while you’re helping at your daughter’s camp, a reasonable choice for you would be to wear skirts as you always do, but to make sure they are of the kind that won’t get in the way as you “fly” about the kitchen. Something of sturdy material, something of a straight or A-line design, and yet will still allow you to move about. Why not?

      On another note, thanks for your comments about makeup. I usually don’t wear makeup for the same reasons you mentioned. However, as I commented to Kinuko not too long ago, since my husband likes to see me with makeup on occasion, I will put some on just for him. Not too much, just enough to accentuate my eyes. So, if we go out to do something special, I might “commemorate” the occasion by wearing a little makeup. However, since I’m so used to not wearing any, it tends to make my eyes tear up! But, that’s the extent of it. When my children see me with makeup on, they notice it right away, and they ask me why I’m wearing stuff on my eyes. I guess it seems weird to them. My oldest son doesn’t like it, because, he says, it makes me look fake. But, I do it for my husband, and only on special occasions.
      In the same way, I never wear jewelry, except on special occasions. And even then, I only wear one, simple piece. I feel okay dressing up for my husband, and for the occasion, but I wouldn’t feel right doing so normally. I know other people might say to me, “Well, why can’t you just be the same ‘you’ all the time? Why change how you look depending on the occasion? Why not be the same ALL the time?” And though I actually agree with that in a general sense, my answer would be, “I have to please my husband. If he wants it (and it isn’t a sin), I’ll do it.” After all, we “glitz” ourselves up when we marry, so it seems consistent that we would “prettify” ourselves up for that man we married, if he likes to see us that way (some men don’t, though) AFTER we’re married, too.
      But, I do think that makeup, generally speaking, usually serves as a “crutch” because we don’t consider ourselves pretty enough, and that’s sad.
      I’d love to hear from you again, whenever you have the chance!
      Your friend,
      Jessica

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      1. Thank you, Jessica, for your helpful advice. I’m not sure if this camp has a dress code, but it’s definitely something I’ll look into. I do have some of those style skirts that I think would work.
        It’s funny that you mentioned the nurse because my husband and I were watching a tv program based in the 1950’s, and the nurses were all wearing dresses. My hubby made the comment, “The era when women actually looked like women.”
        I hope you didn’t feel as if I were judging you regarding makeup. It really is such a personal preference, and we, as godly women who want to please our husbands, will do what pleases them. Even in Christian circles, this idea of submission/subjection is viewed as archaic. It’s not archaic, it’s Biblical! We always thought we were pretty middle of the road in our Christian beliefs, but the road has changed so much that we are now considered very conservative. That’s why I enjoy your blog and others like it that are willing to take that stand on Biblical truth. It’s refreshing, so keep up the good work 🙂
        Many blessings on your day!
        Your friend,
        Ruthie

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      2. I appreciate the encouragement, Ruthie! Thanks!
        Well, I didn’t feel AT ALL that you might be judging me regarding the makeup issue. I simply wanted to clarify my position, so that you wouldn’t be confused if the topic ever popped up again, and I happened to mention that I wear makeup, on occasion.
        I always love hearing from you!
        Jessica

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  2. Jessica, one of my friends started wearing head covering to church. Last Sunday two of us were the only ones wearing head covering. Many people are away for summer holidays.
    She wears hats and caps. It was such a joy to see her.
    Irina

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    1. That’s wonderful to hear, Irina!
      Now you won’t be the only one, which must be such a comfort. I wish I knew of someone else from my church who is starting to cover, but so far, I haven’t seen anybody. Oh well. Maybe someday…
      Your friend,
      Jessica

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    1. Thanks for your comment, Victoria!
      I wonder, what was it like growing up wearing only skirts and dresses? Did you like it? What were the challenges? Do you still wear skirts and dresses? What are your thoughts about it?
      I’d love to hear more from you!
      Jessica

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      1. Hi Jessica,

        Good to hear from you. I enjoyed my wardrobe growing up. I never felt that I was missing out on anything. I liked and still like wearing skirts and dresses. All the girls and women in my family wore the same so I fit in there. I guess the main challenge has been in school or work where I was more of a black sheep.

        My current challenge is a mother-in-law the opposite of me. She is a pants-only woman and trying to convert me, lol.

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      2. Thanks for the feedback, Victoria!
        I like wearing skirts and dresses, too. I feel more feminine and pretty. I like the way they are soft and flowing. I also find them to be more comfortable.
        I hope things work out with your mother-in-law! My mother-in-law has always worn skirts her whole life; she is Mexican, and a conservative, old-fashioned Catholic. My mother, however, is pants-only (though an Evangelical Christian), and always has been (except for the occasional dress for a special event). She’s the one who looks on me like I’m weird. Oh well!
        Jessica

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      3. Jessica, I agree with what you have said, and feel the same way. Since your mother is a pants person, did she raise you in pants when you were little?

        About a year ago my mother-in-law bought me my first pair of pants. Slacks. She feels women should dress nice, just practical.

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  3. Back in the late sixties & early seventies I was in a Oneness Pentecostal church & they were strict about hair & women wearing no pants & men only in long pants! I as a teenage male liked seeing the girls & women in their skirts/dresses & long hair However my baby brother told me how the girls in his age use to change into jeans & pants after church & go to the night-clubs & discos!!!! Also after I left this church, other churches the girls got excited when they allowed “pants” to be worn at some type of event! Also I noticed girls changing into jeans or pants after church & an attitude, I could not wait to get that skirt/dress off & into these jeans/pants!!!! BTW I as a male had to deal with a teen-age girl & young woman shortage in the church(baahhh humbug it was [ ] in the church) I also did not understand why so many late-teen & early twenty-something youth(90-95%)leaving the church at that time!!!! (Before George Barna & others)!!!! Boy were the churches empty of youth except black churches! I went one time to a black church & it was “all female” even the ministry & boy was I shocked!!!! Where are there all white girl & women churches?????

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  4. Hi, I had come across your website some time ago when I was thinking about wearing only dresses and skirts as a Christian woman. I didn’t consider it doable at the time and put the thought aside. About a week ago, I had a lucid dream, really a vision, of me looking at a tall mirror and seeing me wearing a variety of outfits all with ankle length skirts. The message seemed pretty clear.

    The next day I went to the thrift store and bought several long skirts and some modest tops. One blouse in particular, a royal blue high neck bow blouse, seemed to come out of my dream. As soon as I put it on in the changing room and paired it with a long white skirt, a sense of peace and calm seem to come over me. I was looking at the same mirror from the dream. It was clear this is how God wanted me to look to honor Him.

    I’m only beginning on this path of wardrobe transition. Rereading your site was very inspirational. Thank you for putting this online.

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    1. You’re welcome! It was so encouraging to read your comment, Stephanie Marie!
      Keep reading the Bible to know WHY it’s important to dress the way you’ve started to do. Having solid reasons behind what you’re doing will really help later on!
      Thanks, Jessica

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  5. I have finished the initial stages of my wardrobe transition meaning that my closet and no longer has pants or shorts. It’s such a feeling of joy to look at skirts and dresses and know I’m serving God with my choices. It’s not as hard as I thought it would be either. It’s like I took one little step, and God brought my heart the rest of the way. I look forward to continuing my journey walking in skirts and dresses only.

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  6. Dear Stephanie Marie,
    So good to hear from you again!
    I was really happy to hear that you’ve finished transitioning your wardrobe! You’ve made so much progress, and I look forward to hearing more from you about your experiences as a skirt/dress-wearing lady.
    Also, you’re right, that it totally isn’t that hard! You know, most women have at least a couple of dresses and/or skirts in their closets, which they wear on special occasions, or when they just feel like it. The main difference between them and us (aside from modesty and heart issues) is that though they only dress that way SOME of the time, we dress that way ALL of the time! So, we’re really not standing out as much as it feels like we are; but, we ARE shining light into other’s lives.
    Plus, I can say that I like the look of my closet, too! Seeing all my dresses and skirts lined up on one side of the closet, and my husband’s pants lined up on the other, makes me feel happy and proud of myself (in the good sense).
    Thanks for sharing!
    Jessica

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  7. Dear Susanne T,
    So you’ve been wearing skirts and dresses only for the past 12 years? Awesome! It’s so inspiring to hear from other ladies who’ve been dressing modestly for so long. I’ve only been at it for about the past four years. Feel free to share more about your experiences: we’d all love to hear them!
    Jessica

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  8. Just a few things as points of principle.

    Stop thinking of a skirt or dress as “special occasion” wear.

    Dresses are much easier – especially when you are pregnant.

    Wear the right underwear, especially buy a few slips and wear a full slip under a skirt / top as it avoids showing your middle if you stretch up.

    Knee length is too short if you actually want to do anything. Longer, fuller skirts are just easier more comfortable and easier to stay modest.

    Wear opaque tights UK (pantyhose US) or leggings if you are doing stuff where you are conscious of modesty (toddler on floor etc).

    Learn to smooth your skirt over your bottom when you sit down and remember to sit with your legs together or crossed.

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  9. I have been wearing skirts and dresses for the past 13 years. I wouldn’t dress any other way now. One thing I do is wear leggings under my skirt. Then it doesn’t matter what I’m doing–yard work, hiking, or changing the baby on the floor, I’m always covered!– and in cold weather I’m warm too! 😀
    Blessings!–Celina

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    1. Iam a baby-boomer & back in early 1970 there was a news story on a local news program on tv & I was 14, about the “unisex” movement! There was a young man talking to the news reporter & I remember him saying that “pants” on women were to replace the dresses & skirts that women had been traditionally wearing since early human history! I remember durunig the coarse of the seventies women wearing pants everywhere was universal by the late seventies! Before women wore pants as casual & recreational dresswear, never to school/work/business meetings/conferences/weddings/funerals & especially church! I remenber the “unisex hair salons” popping up everywhere in the mid-seventies & women having shorter hair than the men of the day & boy did I hate that! The flame of body pierceing & tattooing was smoldering but in the eighties onwards the fires burned more & bigger! Also the “punk hair colors started in the late seventies & early eighties! In the church young girls could not wait to get out of their skirts & dresses into jeans & pants fast enough!!!!! BTW are you aware of United Nations agenda 21 ?

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    2. How uplifting to hear that you have been doing for 13 years what I’ve only been doing for four! And I absolutely agree with what you said about wearing leggings! They’re a must!
      Thanks,
      Jessica

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  10. Have you research the word modest in 1timothy 2:9 because I have and in context of the meaning it’s talking about how we act in the church and our attitude. This verse is always used out of context in this way. This is my recommendation, if you are to use scripture use it in its context don’t twist it to fit your preferences or your personal conviction. Please consider reading the Bible first, find out what it’s context is, instead of making the Bible fit with your ideas. I’m saying this because it’s a dangerous road to go down. Its why so many Christians think they can drink because they have twisted scripture to fit the lifestyle rather then letting God’s word reveal it’s Truth though it’s context. I believe with all my heart you have good intentions here but if your going to back up your personal conviction with scripture then do so in its context.

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    1. Thank you, A Christian!
      I completely agree with your assertion that it is SO important to not take things out of context! And you’re right, that I do have good intentions — so thank you for “believing the best” about me, even though we seem to disagree on the point in question: the meaning of the word “modest” in 1 Tim. 2:9.
      Let’s look at the context, then.
      Yes, you’re right, that the first letter to Timothy does talk about our attitude and how we act in church. The beginning exhortation that gives us a clue what the letter will be about is in verses 3 and 4 of chapter one:
      “As I urged you when I went into Macedonia — remain in Ephesus that you may charge some that they teach no other doctrine, nor give heed to fables and endless genealogies, which cause DISPUTES rather than GODLY EDIFICATION which is in faith. ” [emphasis mine]
      Continuing in verses 18-20:
      “This charge I commit to you, son Timothy, according to the prophesies previously made concerning you, that by them you may wage the good warfare, having faith and a good conscience, which some having rejected, concerning the faith have suffered shipwreck, of whom are Hymenaeus and Alexander, whom I delivered to Satan that they may learn not to blaspheme.”
      Continuing in chapter two, verses 1-4:
      “THEREFORE, I exhort first of all that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks be made for all men, for kings and all who are in authority, THAT WE MAY LEAD A QUIET AND PEACEABLE LIFE IN ALL GODLINESS AND REVERANCE. For this is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Savior, who desires all men to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth.”
      Verses 8-10:
      “I desire THEREFORE that the men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting; in like manner also , that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works.”
      I cannot quote the whole book here. For those who want to become familiar with the full context, they can read the whole first letter to Timothy on their own.
      It seems to me that the context is “teaching and guarding correct doctrine,” first of all. Second of all, there seems to be an emphasis on “leading a quiet and peaceable life” among ALL men, which is connected to “how you ought to conduct yourself in the house of God” (verse 15, chapter three). Women dressing modestly — how does that help us live a quiet and peaceable life; how does that help us be witnesses for Christ so that all may be saved and come to a knowledge of the truth; how does that fit with behaving appropriately in the house of God?
      It seems obvious to me that a woman who is dressed IMMODESTLY (by contrast) would certainly not fit with God’s directives given here, since an immodestly-dressed woman would 1) draw attention to her body, creating lust in men and envy in women, which would be the opposite of living a peaceable and quiet life; 2) not draw people to the gospel of Christ, because she is drawing so much attention to herself; and finally, 3) not be behaving properly in the house of God because she is distracting men and other women from the message being preached. However, a modestly dressed woman would not incite lust in men nor envy in women, and neither would she distract unbelievers from the message of the gospel, nor believers from the sermon at church; dressing modestly goes hand-in-hand with BEHAVING modestly, and with living peaceably with others.
      What, then, have I taken out of context? I don’t see how there is anything out of context.
      Furthermore, alongside “modest apparel,” hair and ornamentation are also mentioned in verse 9 of chapter two. Now, those things have to do with APPEARANCE, and not merely with behavior, so interpreting the word “modest” to mean “dressing modestly” fits PERFECTLY with the other points in the sentence (hair and ornaments). Also, the text does specifically say “modest APPAREL.”
      I am curious as to your position: Do you believe it is not important for a woman to be modest? Because, that would certainly be an untenable position to hold, considering the context of Scripture.

      Smile . . . 🙂
      Jessica

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      1. P.S. It should be clear that 1 Tim. 2:9 has in view not merely our behavior and attitude (which I don’t deny are important), but also our mode of dress, our hairstyle, and our outer adornment, which are reflections of what is in our heart. However, even though we are told to put on modest apparel, we are not given the specifics of what constitutes modest apparel. It does not say for women to wear skirts and dresses only, though I’ve heard that the meaning of “apparel” here in the Greek is something along the lines of “a long garment hanging down.” I advocate skirts and dresses for women and girls, not because it is a specific Scriptural command, but because it is a way of dressing that fits best, in my opinion, with the Bible’s command for women to dress modestly, and for women to dress like women (i.e., femininely).
        Jessica

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    2. And now a word of uncouth rhyme of what shall be in future time. For in those wondrous far off days, the women shall adopt a craze. To dress like men & trousers wear & cut off their locks of hair. This was part of “Mother Shipton’s Prophecy no later than 1561 in England! Ursla southhill(1486-1561)!The globalist/new world order folk want homosexuality & asexuality/unisex! A day is coming in which pretty dresses & skirts for girls & women will be banned & done away with! Even the voice of the woman will be made like men’s voices & no more hair(universal baldness even on women) The common woman will be “uglified” & forced tattooing/body pierceing/scaring of skin/dyeing of skin & uglifying plastic surgeries will be forced on the women! This is what the beast & anti-christ want to do! Skirts & dresses over the last 50 plus years are becoming less & less I have noticed! Satan wants all femmininity destroyed in all women & this is part of the evil darkness this world is going in deeper & deeper everyday !!!!!Also women will never birth children! All future children will be lab created & this is why they want no more marriage!!!!!

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  11. Hello Jessica! I’ve been really considering a transition to a skirts-and-dresses-only lifestyle…for a few of the reasons you have mentioned above. I have been praying about it lately; it seems that God has answered my prayer and desires for me to go in this direction. I do have a question, though. Do you know any good websites or clothing stores – or even ideas for sewing at home – for skirts that I could wear while exercising (like for going on walks)? I could try skorts, but I have never liked them. So, I suppose a modest, at-least-knee-length skirt could work, with some leggings underneath. Please let me know your thoughts. Thanks so much!

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    1. I regularly walk for over an hour a day and just wear a normal skirt. All of my skirts are comfortably below the knee and for walking (as well as housework and childcare) the skirt needs to be ‘full’ enough to allow unrestricted movement. It also helps if it is heavy enough to avoid being blown up easily.

      It’s great that you have come to this conviction.

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    2. Dear Catherine,
      I’m so glad to hear that you’re considering to go skirts and dresses only! For me, it was more than just a feeling in my heart; it was a conviction based on my study of God’s word (and trying to think logically and consistently). Feelings can be “iffy,” but God’s word never changes, so I always recommend that people cling to that. I’m glad to hear that this is something you’re actively praying about. It is wonderful to see your willingness to go wherever God leads. 🙂

      I have really liked:
      newcreationapparel.com and
      koshercasual.com
      There is also hannahlise.com
      I would start with those sites. But there are really so many!

      One of the things I do, is buy clothes from Goodwill, and occasionally JCPenney or Sears, that fit with my standards. I have found some nice, past-the-knee length skirts there. You just have to keep your eyes open for them.

      As for walking or exercising, I would do just as you mentioned: wear leggings under a loose, knee length skirt.

      I hope that helps! If you have any more questions–or thoughts to share–please feel free to get back with me!
      Jessica

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      1. Thank you so much, Jessica! Yes, it is more than just a “feeling” for me; the Holy Spirit has been convicting me about it (in order to not be a stumbling block for men). It’s not that I’ve made terrible choices about clothing, but, my choices could have been more modest. I also do want to reject the views of feminism (I did some research a few months ago concerning how it got started) and to promote true femininity. I like your point about gender distinction; men don’t wear skirts, so why should I wear pants?

        I appreciate your website suggestions. I am definitely a fan of Goodwill and thrift stores (as well as yard sales). I’ll try the leggings idea soon.

        May God richly bless you!

        Catherine

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      2. You are welcome! I really do hope the best for you on this new (and fulfilling) journey. Let’s keep in touch! Please come back again when you have the time. 🙂
        May God bless you, too, Catherine!
        Jessica

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    3. The point about coming to this conviction is not just modesty (which it is and which is very important) but almost more so an affirmation of femininity. More so a rejection of feminism.

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  12. I think many of us were lead by peer group, fashion and ignorance to dress immodestly in the past but the Lord will forgive those mistakes. Modest and feminine clothing is a very important statement of the wish to follow God and to embrace HIS design for us as women. One reason that like so many other aspects of Godly womanhood it is so offensive to feminists.

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  13. And don’t believe all this rubbish about it being difficult, inconvenient or impractical to wear skirts/dresses only. Unless you count skydiving as a hobby there is virtually nothing you cannot sensibily do in the right skirt/dress, underwear, hosiery combination. After all until 100 years ago women wore nothing else and they had much harder lives than we do.

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      1. I think you will find it easier and more rewarding than you expect.

        What is your husband’s view (If you are married) ?

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      2. I am actually not married (and have never been). I am trusting God to bring that about in His perfect timing, as I desire to be a godly wife and mother one day. So, for now, I am focusing on becoming a virtuous woman and serving the Lord as He leads. 🙂

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  14. I think that the combination of modesty and femininity is a great one for helping in the search for a husband who will respect your beliefs and your wish to be a Godly wife and mother. I think many of us wish we had dressed more appropriately before marriage – I certainly wish I had before I met my husband.

    I also firmly believe that one sign of meeting the right man is when you meet one who actively encourages you in your beliefs and especially respects, values (and indeed) expects his future wife to be modest and pure.

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  15. It’s been over a year since I went full time wearing dresses and skirts, and it’s been a remarkable journey. I love seeing the rows of skirts and dresses in my closet and knowing each morning I am going to step into and embrace myself in the fabric that was made especially for me. It’s a difficult thing to pinpoint, but I feel so much more feminine. It’s like I had let a holy part of me come out instead of hiding it. This is how I am meant to be and look.

    It also helps that I really like the feel and look of my new wardrobe. I love walking in the park, and it’s such a different feeling walking in skirts compared to pants. Really, it’s way better! I think I always preferred dresses and skirts, but I was afraid to commit for practical and social reasons. God had already put it on my heart a long time ago. At some point, it had to become reality to become the fully realized woman that God wants me to be. It did take a vision/lucid dream to push me over the fence.

    I have even converted a couple of my girlfriends in their wardrobes. It was never my intention to see others change, but I’m sure they saw the change in my spirit and wanted to know more. We call ourselves the “skirt sisters!” We help each other find attractive and modest outfits online. So fun, and we love the community of support we are building.

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    1. That is a lovely story and a testament to God’s power in our lives.

      I was the same I preferred skirts but wore mainly jeans and trousers in my early 20’s (just because everyone did). I have been skirts only since my engagement (at my future husband’s request) approaching 14 years ago. I didn’t see it in religious terms back then but I do now in so far as it is not just more modest but it is also a statement about the acceptance of God’s design for us as women and of the gift of femininity.

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    2. And well done for pointing out that it is fun and makes you feel good (as following God often does !).

      It’s not a sin to look good, to wear clothes your husband likes to see you wearing, even to look fashionable as long as you are modest and practical for the children, housework and dog walking !

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    3. Dear Stephanie,
      I really liked what you said here: “It’s a difficult thing to pinpoint, but I feel so much more feminine. It’s like I had let a holy part of me come out instead of hiding it. This is how I am meant to be and look.” That is exactly how I feel, too! When I was younger, before I entered into those difficult years of late-teenage rebellion, there had always been something inside of me that felt like I belonged in a dress. There was a longing to be feminine and unique from boys–to not be the same, but to be special and set apart in a distinctly feminine sense. But, our culture said that wasn’t okay, so I felt like those feelings weren’t permissible and that I had to stifle them.

      So, dressing in skirts and dresses, for me, hasn’t been like closing myself up inside a box–it’s been like opening the doors of my confinement and finally being free! I’m so glad we can relate.

      I’m also glad to see that after a year of living this new (and godly) lifestyle, you’re still going strong and have even found friends who have joined you! “Skirt Sisters” . . . I love it! My advice to you is to continually remind yourself WHY you are doing this; know what the Bible says, and know it well. Then, when discouraging days come, you will have something to anchor into.

      I looked back at your first comments from a year ago, and feel so delighted to have you here again to tell us about your progress! I’m sure your story has been inspirational to all who have read your comments. Thank you!
      Jessica

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